Have you ever experienced recurring dreams? At first, they might seem like a coincidence: same plot, same people, but a different outcome each time. However, as the years pass, you might start to wonder why these dreams keep coming back, especially if they involve someone you no longer have contact with. I’ve experienced this firsthand and spent a lot of time trying to understand it. While I haven’t found a definitive answer, my research has uncovered some intriguing insights that might help you too.

My Recurring Dream

Before diving into the possible meanings behind recurring dreams, I’d like to share my personal experience. Since 2016, I’ve been dreaming about my first boyfriend. Initially, I attributed these dreams to our recent breakup. But as time went on, I noticed a pattern: I would dream of him whenever I was about to end a current relationship.

For years, he seemed to be a sign I listened to. Interestingly, all the dreams followed the same plot line: we, as exes, would meet again and be forced to work together on something. He would try to reconcile, but I would remind him that he had a girlfriend (which he does, even to this date).

This cycle of him being a harbinger of my singlehood ended around 2021. Initially, I thought it was another sign, but my current boyfriend and I have been together for three years now, despite these recurring dreams about my ex. That’s when I started to consider other reasons why this might be happening.

What Do Recurring Dreams Mean?

From what I’ve read, recurring dreams are often related to our frustrations, anxieties, and traumas. They can also reflect aspects of our current lives. For example, if I dream about my ex, it might be because I perceive similarities between my current relationship and my past one.

It could also be because this is my first long-term relationship since my first ex, and my fear of it ending manifests in my dreams. Some sources suggest that recurring dreams could indicate curiosity about the person involved. Though I don’t feel particularly curious about my ex’s life, I did ask a mutual friend about him in hopes that the dreams would stop. They didn’t.

Recurring dreams can mean many things. For me, they serve as a reminder not to repeat past mistakes. I still take them as a sign that something significant is happening in my life.

Recurring dreams can be perplexing and often leave us searching for answers. Whether they stem from unresolved emotions, fears, or reflections of our current situations, they are a window into our subconscious. While I haven’t found all the answers, I’ve learned to listen to these dreams and reflect on what they might be telling me. Perhaps, in time, you’ll uncover the meanings behind your own recurring dreams as well.