When I was younger, I didn’t know I was an introvert. I only started learning about introverts, extroverts, and ambiverts when I reached college. At first, it was confusing to understand how my personality fit into the category of introversion. But as time passed, I began to gain a deeper understanding of myself and why I interact with the world the way I do.
What Does It Mean to Be an Introvert?
For those unfamiliar with the concept, introverts are individuals whose personality is characterized by introversion. Introverts are typically reserved or quiet and tend to be introspective, enjoying time spent alone or in low-stimulation environments. Contrary to popular belief, being introverted doesn’t mean that we’re silent or anti-social all the time. Instead, introverts gain energy through solitude and quiet, while social interactions can be mentally and emotionally draining.
In my case, it’s not that I’m always quiet—I just need time to feel comfortable with someone before I start chatting away. And when I do open up, I can talk a lot! But the process of getting to that point can take quite a while. When I meet new people, I’m usually very quiet, preferring to observe and take in my surroundings first. Only when I feel safe and comfortable do I truly open up.
The Struggles of Being an Introvert
As I’ve grown older, I’ve come to realize the specific challenges that come with being an introvert. While introversion is part of who I am, it can sometimes create struggles that others might not understand. Here are a few of them:
1. Social Exhaustion
One of the biggest struggles I face is how quickly I get tired when I’m around people—especially new ones. Social gatherings, even casual ones, can be draining, and I often find myself craving solitude after just a few hours. While some people thrive in busy environments or find energy in meeting new people, I often need a recharge after social interactions.
2. Needing to Plan Ahead
Spontaneity and introversion don’t always go hand in hand. I struggle to go out without knowing where I’m going or what the plan is. The worst-case scenario for me is being in a situation where I’m unsure what to order at a restaurant or how to act in an unfamiliar environment. It may seem like a small issue, but for an introvert, being unprepared can lead to anxiety.
3. Mental Preparation for Outings
For introverts, going out isn’t just about physically getting ready—it’s also about mental preparation. I often need time to psych myself up for social events, even with close friends. It takes energy to prepare for conversations, the environment, and the mental stimulation that comes with being around people.
4. Difficulty Connecting with New People
Forming close relationships can be a challenge for introverts. It’s not that we don’t want to make friends or build connections, but it takes time for us to open up. At the first meeting, I often struggle to connect with others, which can make social situations awkward. I need multiple encounters with someone before I feel comfortable enough to show my true personality.
5. Anxiety in Public Speaking or Presentations
One of the more challenging aspects of being an introvert is dealing with anxiety when presenting at work or in public. Even with preparation, speaking in front of a crowd can feel overwhelming. The spotlight and attention can be draining, and it’s not easy to push through those feelings.
Learning to Navigate Life as an Introvert
While the struggles of being an introvert can sometimes feel isolating, I’ve also learned that it’s okay to embrace who I am. Understanding my needs and limits has allowed me to set boundaries and protect my energy. I’ve learned that it’s okay to say no to events or take time for myself when I need to recharge.
I’ve also realized that introverts bring unique strengths to the table. Our ability to observe and reflect, our deep connections with those we trust, and our thoughtful approach to conversation are all things I’ve come to appreciate about myself.
If you’re an introvert like me, know that it’s okay to have these struggles. It’s all part of the journey of understanding yourself and finding ways to navigate the world in a way that works best for you.
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